One of the most powerful tools that I use to help clients quit or reduce drinking is the Drink Plan.
You may have said things before like:
I’m going to start drinking less.
I’m not going to drink on weekdays.
That’s not a plan.
A proper working drinking plan has these at a minimum these 3 elements.
What do you want to stop doing?
• Drinking when you shouldn't.
• Drinking more than you want.
• Staying up too late.
• Watching too much porn.
• Not exercising.
• Scrolling scrolling scrolling on FB.
• Being busy without getting important things done.
Why do we do these things, and why is it so hard to stop?
I’m going to share with you a powerful exercise that you can use to create a huge mental shift around any relationship in your life, with your spouse, a coworker or boss, or a friend. It’s called ‘Person of Focus’.
I worked through this exercise just the other day, with my wife Monique as the person of focus, and it enabled me to make a total reset on my attitude around some things. We’ve undergone a bunch of transitions in our lives and our relationship over the past few months, involving getting married and moving in together finally after dating for 3 years, and then moving to and adjusting to life in a foreign country.
For nearly all of my drinking life, starting in college, I would occasionally ask myself whether I ‘had a problem’ with my drinking. There is some history of alcoholism in my family, and I was from the beginning pretty enthusiastic about drinking. I never wanted to go over the edge into being an alcoholic, because then – horrors! - I’d have to consider quitting. It seemed like a sensible and safe thing to do this check-in with myself.
A common question among people wanting to change their drinking habits is ‘how do I get motivated to quit?’
The situation is that you have desire for alcohol and you’re wanting to create a new additional set of beliefs to counteract that desire. You’re motived to drink, and now you want to be also motivated to quit (or moderate).