On my website and in the emails I send to prospective clients, I often suggest that people ‘get on a free call’. I know that people have questions: What will they get out of it? Is it a hard sell? I’m going to explain in detail what happens on these calls.
This consult call is the final step in the process for someone to hire me to be their coach. Whether they have found me via a referral or through my marketing materials, most people want to talk in person to get an understanding of how the program works, what they will get out of it, the price, and perhaps most of all to get to know me a little.
Coaching is a form of talk therapy aimed at helping people identify meaningful goals and achieve them. While there are some similarities with therapy, coaching is often described as more forward looking - helping high-functioning people to overcome specific obstacles or move assertively forwards towards some goal.
That all sounds very official. In more basic terms, coaching helps people be happier, more effective, and more resilient.
One of the most powerful tools that I use to help clients quit or reduce drinking is the Drink Plan.
You may have said things before like:
I’m going to start drinking less.
I’m not going to drink on weekdays.
That’s not a plan.
A proper working drinking plan has these at a minimum these 3 elements.
What do you want to stop doing?
• Drinking when you shouldn't.
• Drinking more than you want.
• Staying up too late.
• Watching too much porn.
• Not exercising.
• Scrolling scrolling scrolling on FB.
• Being busy without getting important things done.
Why do we do these things, and why is it so hard to stop?
I’m going to share with you a powerful exercise that you can use to create a huge mental shift around any relationship in your life, with your spouse, a coworker or boss, or a friend. It’s called ‘Person of Focus’.
I worked through this exercise just the other day, with my wife Monique as the person of focus, and it enabled me to make a total reset on my attitude around some things. We’ve undergone a bunch of transitions in our lives and our relationship over the past few months, involving getting married and moving in together finally after dating for 3 years, and then moving to and adjusting to life in a foreign country.
For nearly all of my drinking life, starting in college, I would occasionally ask myself whether I ‘had a problem’ with my drinking. There is some history of alcoholism in my family, and I was from the beginning pretty enthusiastic about drinking. I never wanted to go over the edge into being an alcoholic, because then – horrors! - I’d have to consider quitting. It seemed like a sensible and safe thing to do this check-in with myself.